Hola. This month we’re diving into childcare — and if that word brings up a mix of stress and frustration, you’re not alone. A recent report shows more than a million workers (mostly moms) miss work, shorten hours, or work part-time every month due to limited care options, deepening the gender pay gap. While real change continues to take its sweet time, here are a few ways I’m finding my sanity along the way:
Reminding myself that nothing lasts forever
Playing this video on repeat (sound on)
Embracing horizontal parenting
Stealing this mom’s gift list
— Claudia Rupcich / Writer / Richmond, VA
We Have To Talk About
The latest in parenting news, tips, and trends:
The answer to the question “what’s the current rate for a babysitter?” Including, what to pay if you have more than one kid.
The true costs of raising kids without grandparents’ support. For many millennials, it’s both isolating and expensive.
What childcare looks like in other countries: Norway’s unbelievable price tag for care and Sweden’s incredible perk for grandparents who help out. Excuse us as we cry in American.
Nine expert-backed solutions to help single parents deal with childcare challenges. If you work from home, number four could be worth a try.
The “three agreements” a mom and her husband use to make childcare more manageable. The first one is so simple — and actually lets you get sh*t done.
PS: We'll have tricks to handle finding a daycare — and much more — on Skimm+. Join our waitlist today to get early access.
No One Asked Us, But...
We have thoughts. This week, we’re ranking child entertainment must-haves for your commute — because keeping the peace in transit is its own sport. No science, just snark.
Hard pass
2/10 Janod Magnéti'book: It’s a fun stationary toy, but in the car, the pieces WILL end up on the floor, leaving you — and your child — frustrated.
Ehh
6/10 Educational screen time: A survival-mode win. Try PBS KIDS, Sesame Street, or Bluey. Oh, and grab these kid-friendly headphones so you can tune into these relatable parenting podcasts.
More of this
7/10 LiKee popper: It’s an ideal toy to keep little ones entertained on car rides — it’s so satisfying you might want to get one for yourself.
9/10 Writing tablet: A great option for kids 3+ who love to draw. The LCD screen is scratch-resistant, the pen is attached (crucial), and the screen magically erases itself with a push of a button. Poof.
Ask an Expert
Last week, we asked you to vote on a question to answer. The winner was:
I don’t live near any family or have a flexible job. What are my options for emergency backup childcare?
FEATURED EXPERT:
Arezou Zarafshan
Founder and CEO of Cally Emmy, a platform for on-demand services, including childcare
“You can't plan for every emergency, but you can build a network strong enough to handle them,” says Zarafshan. Here’s how:
Your employer: Schedule a meeting with your boss or HR to discuss flexible options. Ask: Can I work from home when childcare falls through? Can I bring my healthy kid to the office? Some companies may offer subsidized or free emergency backup care programs (like Vivvi) — but you won't know unless you ask.
The neighborhood network: Check out Nextdoor and Facebook to connect with local families and find childcare recommendations. Pro-move: A background check on TruthFinder or PeopleFinders can add peace of mind (just be sure to get their OK first).
On-demand options: When your backup plan needs a backup, on-demand childcare services can be a lifesaver. Platforms like Call Emmy, Bambino, Sittercity, and Care.com can connect you with vetted caregivers who can help in a pinch.
TOGETHER WITH NEW YORK LIFE
Ready for Anything
One thing all parents (and especially single parents) have to think about? The unexpected. Because life’s usual costs — of which child care can be a hefty one — won't just disappear if you experience sudden income loss, surprise medical expenses, market volatility, property damage, or premature death.
Now for the good news: There are steps you can take to manage these financial risks, like building an emergency fund, getting insurance coverage, and estate planning. This family finances checklist is a great resource to get you started. Oh, and the professionals at New York Life can provide guidance and support every step of the way. See what we mean.
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